About us

HiB offers a voluntary, supportive and totally confidential visiting service for bereaved people.

Help in Bereavement was set up in 1979 as a response to the perceived needs of those suffering the grief, loneliness and social isolation caused by losing someone they love. We offer a free visiting service covering Portsmouth, Gosport, Fareham and Havant (SE Hampshire).

​HiB Visitors :

  • are just ordinary people from all walks of life;
  • give their time free of charge, to help people suffering from bereavement;
  • have, in many cases, suffered bereavement themselves; 
  • are DBS checked;
  • receive specialised training to recognise the needs of the bereaved regardless of when the bereavement happened.

“We offer support for as long as it is needed.”

​We offer support for as long as it is needed. In some cases a state of unresolved grief can go on indefinitely. However long it takes, the objective of the Visitor is the same – to help the bereaved person to reach the point where he or she can pick up the pieces and resume normal contact with the outside world. Apart from the listening service, Visitors can be of practical assistance to the bereaved: helping with form-filling for example, or finding out about local clubs and groups they can join.

​Visitors are available to talk to you on the telephone or will be happy to meet you in your own home or at another agreed place.

​It is estimated that our Visitors’ contribution to the community amounts to about 4,000 hours per year visiting people on a one-to-one basis and running various support groups.

​Our Visitors have made a significant difference to many people’s lives !

First Steps

First Steps

Guilt, Confusion, Sadness, Depression, Frustration, Fear, Anger, Vulnerability, Longing, Hopelessness, Pining, Yearning, Loss of Appetite, Tension, Sleeping Problems, Irritability, Exhaustion, Apathy, Lack of Concentration……

Is this you?

Do you have some of these symptoms? An untimely death can shake even the most balanced families.

What can you do about it?

  • Confide in family and friends
  • Allow yourself time to grieve
  • Call HiB who will send a visitor, a listening ear

“Talking about these emotions…may help.”

​”Grief is the price you pay for love”
Grief is a normal, essential response to the death of a loved one.  At times your emotions may be like being on a roller coaster! Talking about these emotions rather than bottling them up may help.

Practical  Help                    

What to do when a death occurs.

Make a checklist:

​Visit the governmental advice page (click here), which will take you through the various steps. 

​Stop unwanted direct mail to a deceased person: 

Link to the Bereavement Register’s website or contact them at this address: 

The Bereavement Register®
TN13 1XR

Tel: 01732 467940
Tel: 0800 082 1230 – 24 hour automated registration service
Fax: 01732 460036
Email: help@thebereavementregister.org.uk

Friendship Groups

Friendship Groups

We have two Friendship Groups.  These are social clubs/support groups for bereaved people and those who may be struggling.  We have regular coffee mornings, trips and outings. 

Coffee Mornings

St. George’s Church Hall  
Wellington Way, Waterlooville, PO7 7EH
The second Monday of every month 10.00 am until noon.
Just drop in, or call Hilary on 07900 516158 for more info.

“Everyone is welcome.” 

St. Mary’s Community Building,
St Mary’s Road, Portsmouth, PO3 6AB
The fourth Monday of every month (including bank holidays) 10.00 am until noon.
Just drop in, or call Jean on 07821 669 022 for more info.

Everyone is welcome,  just come along and meet some of the HiB visitors and other members of the groups.

Entry is free to our regular coffee mornings,  but voluntary donations are gratefully received for the refreshments we provide.

We often discuss and arrange outings, anyone can suggest a place and help in arranging visits would always be welcome.

Don’t be lonely… don’t be shy… come along and join the group.  You will be very welcome!